To Love Fully Learn To Accept The One You Love

ACCEPTANCE...

Ann Had To Make A Choice- SCENARIO:

Adam and Ann has been dating for 5 years. Adam is the type of man who loves control. Ann loves him and she doesn't want to lose him because she feels that Adam is the only man that wants her. Adam works about 12 hours a day and Ann sits home waiting for him to come home. Sometimes Adam doesn't even come home.

One early morning Ann called Adam several times but Adam didn't answer his cell phone. It was about 2:00AM and Ann had this strange butterfly feeling in her stomach. Ann decided to go to his job to make sure he was at work but when she arrived at Adam's job it was closed. She couldn't believe it. She tried calling Adam again and still no answer. Ann immediately went home and still no Adam. Ann slept on the couch in the livingroom and around 6:00AM Adam walked in. Ann wakes up and looked at Adam but Adam didn't say a word.

Several months went by and Adam is still doing the same routine, not coming home. Finally, Ann is fed up. One afternoon on a Tuesday, Adam is at home. Adam is in the kitchen looking in the refrigerator for something to eat and Ann walks in the kitchen very upset and asks, “Where have you been? What are you doing? It has been several months and you still are not coming home.” Adam stops what he is doing and looks at Ann and says, “Huh, working. I am trying to make this money. If you must know, I have been working overtime. Plus, you don't ask me any question. I'm the one who is taking care of you.” Ann gets angry and says, “No, you have not been at work. You are lying to me. You suppose to love me. I love you and you treat me like this. Stop lying to me.” Adam has a smirk on his face and replies back, “Look, I told you, I'm at work. Now stop asking me questions. It really doesn't matter where I go. As long as I pay the bills...it shouldn't matter.” “It shouldn't matter..when I go to your job and you are not there,” says Ann emotionally. “Hold up, you are going to my job,” Adam says angrily. Before Ann could reply back Adam gets a call. Adam answers the phone call and walks out of the kitchen and goes outside. Ann peeks out the window and try to hear his conversation. She could hear a woman's voice on the other end. Ann starts to get super emotional. When Adam walks back into the house Ann is crying and she asks, “Who was that? Are you cheating on me? Why me?” Adam didn't say anything he just walks away, get his keys and leave. Ann is very overwhelmed and she cries all night. Adam didn't come home at all until the next morning.

Ann decides it is time to leave Adam. When Adam walks in Ann immediately tells Adam, “I'm leaving you.” Adam laughs and says, “You leaving me. You ain't going anywhere. No one wants you but me. You can't leave me..who is going to take care of you? You don't work, you are not independent, you always depend on me, no man wants that. Man, stop it.. you are mine.” “You don't deserve me. You dont accept me or appreciate me. I am a good woman to you. I love you but you can't see that. You don't give me the love I deserve and the attention I need,” says Ann. “Girl, sit down because you are making me angry,” says Adam. Ann sits down and then she stands up. “No, I will not sit down. I'm leaving,” says Ann. Ann packs her things in a suitcase and walks to the door. Adam is laughing and asks, “Where are you going to go? No one wants you. Your family doesn't even want you.” Ann opens the door and slams it so hard she breaks the glass in the door.

A year goes by and Adam still calls Ann to get her back but Ann made a choice to go forward with her life. Ann meets a man who fell in love with her at first sight. Ann has been dating this great man named Sean for 6 months. Sean treats Ann like a queen. Ann is working and very independent. Sean gives her the inspiration motivation, commitment and honesty she needs in a relationship.

THE TRUTH:

Acceptance is the ability to see that others have a right to be their own unique persons. That means having a right to their own feelings, thoughts and opinions. When you accept people for who they are, you let go of your desire to change them.

Love is making a choice every day, either to love or not to love. ... This doesn't mean we don't love the person; it means we are left with a choice. There is a difference between feeling love for someone (caring about a person) and loving someone (choosing to love that person). You may have love for someone forever.

CONCONCLUSION:

Love should not hurt. You have a choice to be loved and appreciate. Love should not be controlled, manipulated, abused or unappreciated. If you can't be love or accepted for who you are, you have a choice to move on and find someone who can love you the way you should be loved.